I Wish Him Well

Today, or since the hour is late, more appropriately, yesterday, my ex brother-in-law got remarried. From what I've heard, to a wonderful girl named Lauren. I am truly happy for him and wish him nothing but the absolute best. My nephews still live at home with him and from what I've gathered, they seem to really like her and that is good. They all live in a big house with his parents as well, although I don't know for how much longer. I do know he and his new bride were looking for a house in another town close by and selling their respective houses. Not sure where his parents will go since they are getting up in years.  

After all is said and done, I really miss them. For many years they've been family to me. Funny how that happens in divorces. Sometimes the ones caught in the crosshairs have little to do with what happened and even less knowledge about it and yet they're cut out too. It wasn't done maliciously, mostly because we lived in different parts of the country and talking seemed awkward at best and downright disloyal at times, although it shouldn't have been thought that way. I don't know the detail of the breakup between my sisiter and her husband. She never volunteered the info and I never asked. A few times he called me trying to get info that I honestly didn't have, so I of course got dragged into it kicking and screaming. Sad thing is that I loved them both - and all their warts and flaws. I could see both sides. I hoped they could work it out and yet knew somehow that wasn't going to happen.

I'm glad he moved on. I'm glad he found someone that he feels he can spend the rest of his life with. I hate being on the outside. I love his parents - they became like parents to me too since mine had long since passed away. I'd love to call them and one of these days I will. I just wanted the wedding to be behind - somehow I think it will make it easier. Plus it will give us something to talk about. I hope his new bride treats him well, I hope he finishes projects he agrees to do for her. I hope they do things together, as a family, and find time to laugh. The boys are older now with lives of their own but I hope that they forge memories that will last a lifetime. I love them all. I didn't divorce them, although sometimes it feels like I was forced to sign papers to stay away. I hope that's not the case. We'll see.

So Cheers, my friend, as you embark on the next chapter of your life. May the road be smooth enough to sail into the sunset but bumpy enough to add interest along the way. ((hugs)) and love to my "old" family. Miss you and can't wait to see the pictures. God Bless.. <3 <3 <3 Congratulations to the groom; best wishes to the bride.... always.